Overcoming Wedding Stress as a College-Aged Bride
Before I was a mom, I was a wife (although I wasn’t just a wife for very long). Before I was a wife, I was a college student planning her wedding to happen the Saturday after finals during my senior year of college.
Rewind a little bit, and Dan and I got engaged the summer before my junior year of college. He had already graduated, and was in the process of applying to physical therapy school. Once we got engaged, we knew that we needed to get married within a year in case he got into school. We also had to work around my school schedule because I didn’t want to get married in the middle of a term.
So the end of a term, after finals seemed like the best idea. Ha.
Anyways, it wasn’t as horrible as it sounds. We found a venue that took care of food, decorations, reception and ceremony, etc. I was a little bit too relaxed on a lot of issues, but I was terrified of becoming a “bridezilla” so I just rolled with it.
About six weeks before our wedding date, we got a call saying that our venue had gone bankrupt and we had to switch venues.
When I got the call, it was the first (and only, until the rehearsal) time that I cried in the wedding planning process.
Luckily, the company had another venue that they had available that weekend, and threw in some free champagne and chair covers that ended up saving us a couple thousand dollars.
Everything ended up being okay, and I ended up marrying the best guy ever, and we went on an awesome honeymoon the day after our wedding. Nobody knew that anything went wrong (other than the postcards I had to send out informing everyone of the venue change) and we’re still married. Boom.
In light of all of this though, I learned some things about how to manage wedding stress, or just stress in general.
Get a (Fun) Support System
When all of this happened, my mom and friends were mad for me, but also remained calm for me. They were so spot-on at letting me know everything was going to be okay, and it wouldn’t matter in the end.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
And it’s all small stuff. Hear me out. I know a wedding is one of the biggest days of your life, and marriage is a big deal. When it comes to the wedding though, little (or big) details really won’t matter. Especially if you have a fun support system as mentioned above.
It’s going to be the biggest party, and one of the only times that all of your loved ones will be in the same place, at the same time, helping celebrate you.
Relax, have fun, and bust some killer moves. Nobody is judging your dance moves on your wedding night.
Know the End Result
At the end of the night, and end of the wedding planning process, if you can keep your cool — you’re marrying your person.
A wedding is a small blip in the grand scheme of your lives together. I remember how fun our wedding was, and one of the appetizers (bacon wrapped dates, because I went off-menu for those puppies), but other than that I couldn’t tell you what our decor was, what our entrees were or what songs were even played most of the night.
Heck, we don’t even have any wedding pictures displayed anymore now that we have three kids that are way cuter than us.
I do know though, that I made the right decision with who I married. Dan and I just celebrated six years of marriage, and that is way more meaningful than any Pinterest-perfect wedding.
So if you are a college-aged bride, an older bride, or even just somebody going through a difficult situation – relax. Things will be okay, and in the end, these small details won’t matter.